My 2010

Its a couple of hours till the new year starts 2011. If i'm supposed to pay any attention to the movie 2012, I guess I have a year to do everything that's on my bucket-list and geez I don't think one year is enough for me to get through everything.
So this year i decided not to go for the watch night service at church to usher in the New Year like I have been doing for the past twenty something years, but rather stay home and blog about my 2010 as it ends. So where do I begin, ah yes January 2010.
So January was intense. I began the year signing up for an 8month insurance diploma, during which that time I was involved in collecting data in the Central Region of Ghana for research. So basically January was all work and no play for me. But it also led to my meeting a lovely young lady which has led to a very interesting friendship.
Then came February which marked then end off my research and also marked the beginning of someone I love and care about deeply not talking to me for 8months straight. Glad to say that part is over.
It was or is supposed to be the love month but I guess cupid skipped a house or maybe died before reaching mine. ooh yes I stop going to church around this time.
Nothing really happens in march so I guess we will skip that, no offense to people born in march.
AAAh next up is April, the month which I was born. The month that starts the Zodiac calender. Fast forwarding to my birthday April 10, I woke up feeling empty inside. Empty in the sense I looked back at my twenty something years off existence and realized I had not really accomplished much and felt really low. The day ended with yours truly at home watching a crappy Ghana Music Awards show which resulted to a little blog war. lol!!
Just when I thought things were gonna go well May through August brought about a very dark time in my life I prefer not to talk about. All I can say is I wouldn't wish anything like that to happen to anyone ever.
October through to November was all fun. Just having loads of fun. Meeting interesting people, bar hopping etc. life was just easy, not worrying but just living as if there was no tomorrow.
DECEMBER!!!!! Christmas!! everyone loves december. everyone's cheerful happy about the holidays. And yes lots of carry over holidays this December. This particular year I was and still so excited because most off my really close friends where going to be in town. 23rd of december started my christmas campaign but the following morning saw this come to an end when i got involved in a motor accident and its costing me an arm and a leg to get it fixed. hmmm!!!!
Its now 31st December 2010 11:54pm exactly and I am wondering how 2011 is going to be like. The things I am most grateful for in 2010
1. My life
2. My Family
3. My Friends

Hoping 2011 brings greater things and so much more.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Sugar Mummy:We all need one!!

So guess you are wondering why chose this for my new post huh?
So i was talking to my friend about how Ghana make hard(meaning things are difficult in Ghana) and also the Ghanaian ladies are not helping. Even though they know that things are difficult now that's when they keep asking their bf's to buy them stuff. So my friend was like he's just met this Sugar Mummy (older women) who is willing to assist my friend if you know what i mean.

So a Sugar Mummy is an Older Woman who offers money or gifts to the young boy/man in exchange for companionship or sexual favours. by Barima Kwaku Osei Kwakye

Other defintions are:

1.Honey Mummy is an older woman who provides for younger boys/men. by urban dictionary

2.Cougar is female, usually between thirty to fifty years old who enjoys the sexual company of a younger man. urban dictionary

3. Puma is a woman in her thirty's who dates younger men. she's often considered a cougar-in training. by wikipedia.org

4. Gyaku-enjo-kosai is the opposite of enjo-kosai which is a Japanese practice where older men give money and other luxury gifts to attractive women for their companionship and possibly sexual favours. by wikipedia.org

Back to my story.... My friend was like uh huh!!! got it now!! .. so he went to a bar and met some fine woman sitting there sipping on a drink and he decided to chat her up. His intention was to hit and get out as fast as he could so he wouldn't spend money. Little did he know that he had stumbled on a GOLD mine. Now the Gold is not just about money, meaning he had gotten two things for the price of one.
1. Having sexual relations with a H.O.T.T woman on a regular with no pressure
2. Yea this where the money comes in.  A spending allowance to make the guy look "Legen---dary" like Barney Stinson(from How I Met your Mother) will say.

So I started asking myself these Questions
1. Wouldn't it be nice to go out once in your Life time with a girl that:
a. is not expecting you to pay for dinner etc
b. pays for her cab fare
c. buys her own credits

2. Where do you find Sugar Mummies?
I was reading a piece on askmen.com about sugar mummy's and in the article they said they best places to scout for sugar mummies is @ charity benefits, auction houses etc... but in Ghana I'm wondering where you would have to go to meet lovely Older Women

a. La Palm(The Casino)
b. GoldenTulip (The Casino)
c. Citizen K
d. Polo Club

I guess if it were me this is where i would scope out. Do know off any places that i should add?

3. So What to Say/Do to get the Sugar Mummies attention?

 I guess first you should look the part. Guys with grown ass faces better shape up so you like a (teletubie).
AskMen. gives a couple of pointers:
a.You must physically look good. I totally agree. sugar mummies are likely to want a six-pack or hard tummy and not a 1 ball if you know what I mean.
b. You need to dress to impress. It doesn't have to be any fancy label but at least what you wear should get you a second look. Well that's my opinion.
c.You need to show your youthful side whilst not letting yourself appear to be foolishly young . This may highlight the fact that she is older.
d. You have to invest a little to get a little. Do buy her an expensive bottle of wine or a cocktail

4. So What to Talk about?

What are you gonna say? Definitely you can not talk about Independence Day cos clearly she saw it happen and you only read about it years later. lol!!!!
but seriously what do you say to a potential Sugar Mummy?
Here are a couple of things
a. Don't talk about her money or money in general
b.Comment on her beauty and try and make her feel like she needs a guy like you in her life
c. Listen to her talk and try and relate to stuff she says so it kinda feels to her that you are in sync.
d. Whatever you do, don't bore her talking about yourself all the time cos if she was into you in the first place and you pull the I stunt she will lose interest super quick.
e.Try and look up some intellectual conversation topics just in case your potential Sugar Mummy is book long.

5. How to Seduce Her?
   a. I guess you don't have to. Leave it all up to her I guess. 
   b. any suggestion?


6. Do you really have to maintain the relationship?
    a. Yes
    b  No.
if a. why?? and if b. why?


7. Dangers to Avoid
   There are lots ofthings to avoid. Like the some Ghanaian movie I watched sometime back..
 a. She might Juju you(Thats if you believe in superstition)
 b. She might you arrested, if you make any plans of leaving her b4 she dumps you
 c. She will pour Acid on any girl that enjoys her money through you ie: even if the girl doesn't know she's spending 'Sugar mummy money'.
 d. Any ideas?


Something to think about:

1. According to the Biography Chanel UK
   a. A quarter of british married women are hitched to younger men

2. According to BBC,
  a The proportion of  brides in England and Wales marrying a younger man rose from 15% to 26% in the years 1963 to 1998.